shananaomi:

This month for OUT I wrote something a little different. So different I’m almost a little nervous about everyone reading it.
“Your life is like a novel,” I often tell my wife, and as a writer, my fingers have itched to sort her childhood chaos into a simpler, happier narrative.
“It’s very Autobiography of Alice B. Toklas of you,” said our friend Dylan when I confessed this growing fixation. But I was sick of my own family stories, now utterly—triumphantly, even—bored by them.
So instead I wrote about Jessica’s life, about her childhood. And she let me.
She helped me, even. It’s a tricky undertaking, excavating sufficient detail with which to make a narrative from between the pinpricks of painful memories—trickier still when the subject of your data mining is one you love more than anything. With the subtle ruthlessness borne of decades’ experience, I started in on a series of gentle interrogations about all these people who made my wife the woman she is, but whom I would never meet.
When on occasion my ethical instincts reared up and I felt obligated to remind her it wasn’t an empty threat that I’d write it all down, that I wasn’t simply scribbling notes for myself, Jessica would laugh and say knowingly, “I married a journalist.”
Read “Father Figure” online today or pick up a copy of the Love Issue, on newsstands now.

This is a beautiful read.

shananaomi:

This month for OUT I wrote something a little different. So different I’m almost a little nervous about everyone reading it.

“Your life is like a novel,” I often tell my wife, and as a writer, my fingers have itched to sort her childhood chaos into a simpler, happier narrative.

“It’s very Autobiography of Alice B. Toklas of you,” said our friend Dylan when I confessed this growing fixation. But I was sick of my own family stories, now utterly—triumphantly, even—bored by them.

So instead I wrote about Jessica’s life, about her childhood. And she let me.

She helped me, even. It’s a tricky undertaking, excavating sufficient detail with which to make a narrative from between the pinpricks of painful memories—trickier still when the subject of your data mining is one you love more than anything. With the subtle ruthlessness borne of decades’ experience, I started in on a series of gentle interrogations about all these people who made my wife the woman she is, but whom I would never meet.

When on occasion my ethical instincts reared up and I felt obligated to remind her it wasn’t an empty threat that I’d write it all down, that I wasn’t simply scribbling notes for myself, Jessica would laugh and say knowingly, “I married a journalist.”

Read “Father Figure” online today or pick up a copy of the Love Issue, on newsstands now.

This is a beautiful read.

  1. lostgrrrls reblogged this from headphonesnotrequired and added:
    I honestly don’t know Jessica as well as others in the friend group through which I met her (and Shana), but she’s...
  2. oopsibrokethefork reblogged this from blurintofocus and added:
    My favorite thing about this article is the fact that she uses the phrase rough trade without stepping out of her story...
  3. chanelleberlin reblogged this from shananaomi and added:
    This is a beautiful piece about the life of one lady I adore written by another lady I adore who really, really loves...
  4. lettersfromtitan reblogged this from blurintofocus
  5. intotheglitter reblogged this from blurintofocus and added:
    I too cried at work reading this. It’s beautiful, as they are. *getting in line for that book about Jessica’s life*
  6. slackmistress reblogged this from shananaomi and added:
    This is a thing you should read. Not kidding.
  7. headphonesnotrequired reblogged this from meganwest
  8. meganwest reblogged this from factsarenothing and added:
    I’ve been trying to think of something to add for a while but I have nothing. As usual, Shana says it best.
  9. tristealven reblogged this from blurintofocus
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  11. jamief reblogged this from shananaomi and added:
    Beautiful story and wonderful writing.
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  13. quigonejinn reblogged this from blurintofocus and added:
    This is a really, really gorgeous article by a really, really good writer. Jesus.
  14. factsarenothing reblogged this from betheboy and added:
    Will’s tag is truth: #peoplearegood.
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  17. lizlet reblogged this from shananaomi and added:
    This is a beautiful read.
  18. blurintofocus reblogged this from shananaomi and added:
    Shana is a beautiful writer, and if you have anything to thank for the last year I’ve spent trying to be a better...
  19. noirbettie reblogged this from betheboy and added:
    Shana is SUCH a great writer. And I know her and Jessica in real life and they are my favorite.
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